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My son was in a coma for four weeks – his heroes’ visit changed everything | UK News

Kathy Ingham experienced every parent’s worst nightmare six weeks ago (Photo: Joel Goodman)

Six weeks ago, Kathy Ingham received a call from her son who was at the pub with his friends, and she thought it might be the last time she heard from him.

Her son, Kyle, 21, told her downstairs phone: ‘I love you, I love my dad, I love my dog ​​– but I can’t do this anymore.

“I have to go, my tram is coming.”

Kyle jumped in front of that streetcar in an attempt to kill himself.

Kathy and Mark, Kyle’s father, rushed to the Shaw and Dunwood Park light rail stops to try to find their son, but realized what had happened when they heard police and ambulance sirens. ring around Shaw and Crompton.

TO THE SUBWAY My son jumped in front of a train and attempted suicide – but meeting his favorite footballers 'brought him back to life' Kathy Ingham
Kyle Ingham is a sports fan and has been playing cricket at Heyside Cricket Club since he was a child.
FOR THE METRO? Joel Goodman - 07973 332324 - all rights reserved. 11/21/2024. Oldham, United Kingdom. KATHY INGHAM (51 years old) at home. Kathy's son Kyle Ingham is very ill in Salford Royal Hospital after attempting suicide. Photo credit: Joel Goodman
Kathy Ingham said she will ‘never forget’ the night her son attempted suicide (Picture: Joel Goodman)

Kyle was “clinically dead” at the scene, but doctors were miraculously able to bring him back to life.

He was left in a coma after suffering brain damage, broken ribs, a broken hip and pelvis, spinal injuries, facial fractures and a compound fracture to his left hand.

Earlier in the evening, Kyle had gone to Heyside Cricket Club, where he had played all his life, to have a pint with his father.

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The “little nugget”, a nickname given to him at the club when he was a child, was “happy and bubbly, we had no idea anything was wrong”, said his mother.

Kathy sits at her son’s bedside for 12 hours every day and said, “She can’t thank everyone who helped her son that night enough, because without them he would have died.”

Kyle woke up from the coma four weeks later on November 12, but he was still sedated and could barely open his eyes.

FOR THE METRO? Joel Goodman - 07973 332324 - all rights reserved. 11/21/2024. Oldham, United Kingdom. KATHY INGHAM (51) with the family dog ​​KIMCHI in the back garden of her house. Kathy's son, Kyle Ingham, trained the dog to play soccer and named him Kimchi. Kyle is very ill in Salford Royal Hospital after attempting suicide. Photo credit: Joel Goodman
Kyle told his mom, dad and dog he loved them (Photo: Joel Goodman)

But everything changed when Kyle was visited by his heroes at Oldham Athletic Football Club – Tom Conlon, Dan Gardner, Manny Monthe, Josh Lundstram and Jesurun Uchegbulam.

Kathy said: “Kyle could only open his eyes a little bit before they came, he wasn’t really responsive.

“But as soon as Manny (Monthe) walked over to the side of the bed and said, ‘You’re okay, buddy,’ Kyle’s eyes started blinking. They were completely open and he never looked at them. closed.

“This boy knew who these players were, when they all spoke to him, his eyes were open the whole time.

“I will never forget this day. They left him an autographed football, an autographed pin-up girl, they were awesome. They really were.

TO THE SUBWAY My son jumped in front of a train and attempted suicide – but meeting his favorite footballers 'brought him back to life' Kathy Ingham
A visit from Kyle’s heroes to Oldham Athletic changed everything

Dan Gardner, Oldham’s central midfielder and number 19, said their visit to see Kyle was an emotional experience which put things into perspective.

He added: “I think we would all be lying if we said we didn’t hold back tears that day.

“The club secretary told us about Kyle and as soon as we heard we went straight there.

“Seeing Kyle was scary, I have a child myself so it puts things into perspective.

“It was a really emotional moment, Kathy told us he hadn’t really opened his eyes before that – so we were delighted that we were able to have that impact on him. It was a good day for him but also for us.

Oldham face Rochdale this weekend in a local derby.

Dan continued: “Kyle’s dad told me, ‘All Kyle and I want this weekend is three points.’

“So that’s the goal, to get three points for Kyle.”

TO THE SUBWAY My son jumped in front of a train and attempted suicide – but meeting his favorite footballers 'brought him back to life' Kathy Ingham
Kyle, just weeks before his suicide attempt, dressed up for a fundraiser

Every day since visiting Oldham Athletic, Kyle has been able to open his eyes. He is even able to move his arms and make noises now.

The 21-year-old is expected to remain in hospital for more than a year, with doctors unsure if he will ever make a full recovery.

“We don’t know if he’ll be able to talk or take care of himself again, we just don’t know,” his mother said.

“But as long as he’s alive, I’m happy.

“The other day he mumbled for about 15 minutes, and it gets to you.

“The slightest bit of hope reaches you. »

FOR THE METRO? Joel Goodman - 07973 332324 - all rights reserved. 11/21/2024. Salford, United Kingdom. KATHY INGHAM (51) outside Salford Royal Hospital. Kathy's son, Kyle Ingham, is very ill in hospital after attempting suicide. Photo credit: Joel Goodman
Kathy wants to help other young men in difficulty (Photo: Joel Goodman)

Last year, Kathy’s daughter, Aimee, fell off the back of a motorcycle and suffered life-changing injuries. She’s still learning to walk now.

Kathy said: “I raised £1,000 last year for the air ambulance because it saved my daughter’s life.

“Next year I will collect twice as much, because this time they saved my son’s life.

“I can’t thank every doctor enough, I can never thank them for what they did.”

Just months before the night Kyle attempted suicide, he told his mother he needed help.

Kathy took him to the doctors and he was referred, but Kyle didn’t get help in time.

The Samaritans are there to listen, day and night, 365 days a year. You can call them free on 116 123, email [email protected] or visit samaritans.org for more information.

Kathy and her sister Nicola Street now want to make sure other young men get the support they need before it’s too late.

She said: “I want to raise money for groups that support men’s mental health.

“The young guys need more help. Men think that if you talk to someone, you look weak.

“If I can save just one person’s life, I’ll be happy.” If I saved one person from this trauma I’m going through, I’ll be happy.

While Kathy was at Salford Royal Hospital with Kyle, she saw several families lose their children to suicide.

Kathy and Kyle’s story is tragic, but she hopes it will help other young men overcome mental health issues in the future.

Kathy says her “big friendly giant” would “do anything for anyone.”

She said: “He’s an extraordinary boy – he just doesn’t know it.”

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