In the wedding dance, men and women may find themselves moving at different paces. Even though a husband may think everything is fine, his actions or inactions may unknowingly trigger feelings of distrust toward his wife. What he sees as innocent behavior or normal routines can sometimes send her a completely different message, one that makes her feel uncomfortable about the relationship — or about him.

Husbands, it’s crucial to recognize that your wife’s emotional landscape is much more sensitive to certain things than you think. Once you understand these missteps, you’ll be better equipped to create the type of emotional security your wife craves.

Here are 10 things husbands do without knowing it that make wives distrust them.

1. They fail to share the details of their day

The emotional bond that exists between a woman and her husband is often nourished by small, daily intimate exchanges. When you come home after work and simply say, “Everything was fine” or, even worse, remain silent about your day, it can create an emotional divide.

Women appreciate knowing the details of what went well, what didn’t go as planned, and who you spoke with. Hiding this information, even unintentionally, may make your wife feel excluded, as if there is a secret part of your life that she is not a part of.

Fix it: Share more of your day with her. It doesn’t have to be a detailed recap of every meeting, but simple conversations about your interactions, what made you laugh, or how you felt about something will build trust and emotional intimacy, supported by a study in the Journal of Family Psychology.

2. They are emotionally unavailable when she needs them

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Sometimes husbands emotionally withdraw or leave the room when their wives are upset or going through a difficult time. You might think that you are give him spacebut what she often seeks is your support, comfort, and validation. If you close the conversation or change the subject when she’s looking for an emotional connection, she may feel rejected or you don’t want to understand her.

Fix it: When your wife is upset, don’t try to make things right right away. Just listen, empathize, and let her know you’re there for her. Showing your emotional availability helps him trust that you will be there when it matters most.

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3. They become too secretive about their phone or social media

In today’s world, a husband’s presence on the phone or on social media can become a minefield. THE Computers in human behavior If you overprotect your phone by always locking it, quickly closing apps when she passes, or keeping passwords to yourself, your wife might start to wonder what you’re hiding. Even if you have nothing to hide, this secrecy creates an atmosphere of distrust.

Fix it: Be transparent with her about your phone, messages, and social media accounts. You don’t need to share every conversation, but providing access and reassurance can help her feel safe in your relationship.

4. They minimize or dismiss their concerns

When a wife expresses concerns about something, whether it’s the relationship, her feelings, or an external problem, the husband may tend to downplay her concerns or offer quick solutions. This dismissive approach can make her feel ignored, as if her emotions are invalid or that her concerns are unfounded.

Fix it: Take their concerns seriously. Instead of immediately offering solutions, listen carefully and validate their feelings. Let him know that his emotions matter to you and that you are willing to explore the issue together.

5. They are constantly on the defensive

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If your wife brings up something that’s bothering her and your first reaction is to get defensive and explain why it’s no big deal, blame her for overreacting and say that her worry is ridiculous, this can cause a breakdown in communication. Over time, constant defensiveness creates emotional distance and can make your wife wonder if you truly understand her or value her feelings, such as suggested by a search in the Communication Monographs Journal.

Fix it: When she points out something that bothers her, take a deep breath and listen before responding. Acknowledge their point of view, then express your thoughts calmly. It’s not about being right; it’s about fostering understanding.

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6. They neglect to schedule time for her

Life is busy and it’s easy to let date nights or quality time together slip through the cracks. But when a husband stop trying Spending time with your wife – whether it’s planning a date night or just sitting down for a conversation – can make her feel neglected and unimportant.

Fix it: Make a conscious effort to schedule time for her, even in the midst of the hustle and bustle of life. Whether it’s a surprise date or a quiet evening together, show her that she’s a priority in your life.

7. They are not transparent about finances

Money matters are one of the biggest sources of stress in marriage, and secrecy or dishonesty in financial matters is a sure way to erode trust. The Journal of Financial Therapy explores Whether it’s hiding purchases, not sharing financial decisions, or keeping financial difficulties to yourself, this lack of transparency can make your wife unsure about your commitment to the relationship.

Fix it: Be open about your finances. If you are facing financial difficulties, talk about it together. Work as a team to resolve any issues and ensure she feels included in the decision-making process.

8. They flirt with others, even innocently

What may seem like harmless flirting to you can feel like a betrayal of your wife. Engaging in flirtatious behavior, even if it seems innocent or unintentional to you, can cause him to question his value in the relationship. It erodes it feeling of security and an emotional connection, leaving her feeling neglected or unimportant, as if your attention and affection could be easily diverted elsewhere.

Fix it: Be mindful of your behavior around other women. Although it’s natural to be friendly, your wife should never feel like another woman has more of your attention or affection than she does.

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9. They avoid difficult conversations

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Many husbands, wanting to avoid conflict, avoid difficult conversations, hoping the problem will resolve itself; however, unresolved issues often fester and create distrust. When you avoid discussing issues, your wife may feel like you’re not invested in solving the problem or, even worse, not fully committed to the relationship, as one explains. study in the Journal of Family Psychology.

Fix it: Engage in open and honest conversations, even if it is difficult or uncomfortable. It’s better to tackle difficult issues head-on rather than letting them erode your connection over time.

10. They take her for granted

When you get too comfortable in your marriage, you may forget to show appreciation for your wife’s efforts. A lack of gratitude, whether for support, care at home or his emotional work, can make her feel underappreciated. Over time, this neglect may cause her to question your commitment and loyalty to her.

Fix it: Take the time to express your appreciation for the little things she does. A simple “thank you” for her daily efforts in your relationship and your home can go a long way in rebuilding trust and deepening your connection.

The key to maintaining trust in your marriage lies in being emotionally present, transparent, and appreciative of your wife’s feelings. She is your life partner and emotional counterpart. She craves the same things as you: security, affection and respect.

By understanding the subtle ways your behavior might be making him feel distrustful and by making small but powerful changes to foster intimacy and connection, you’ll help create the type of marriage in which both partners feel heard, valued, and loved.

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Richard Drobnik, LCSW, DCSW, is the director of Mars and Venus Advice Center in Teaneck, New Jersey.