Ok, be honest, if you’re reading this article you’re wondering if your man has commitment issues, and you just want to know. Good for you! It’s best to look for the signs as early as possible so you can move forward and find the love you’re looking for.

Of course, it’s not just men who have commitment phobia: many women do too. But it seems to be a more common problem in men, which is a whole other topic.

Here are 7 subtle signs of a man who will never commit

1. He doesn’t want to meet your friends and family

Men who have commitment issues often won’t want to meet their partner’s friends or family. To some extent it’s a sign of good character because once families get involved things change, but he’s not someone who wants to be in a relationship.

When you want to introduce your man to a friend or family member, does he make excuses? Does it disappear when a loved one visits? Does he insist that his friends are busy if you want to meet them? Is he saying he just wants some alone time with you and that’s more important to him?

If your man does any of these things, it’s a sign that he has commitment phobia. He knows that by getting to know your friends and family, he’s taking the relationship to another level, something he just doesn’t want to do because he’s not sure he wants to stay.

So, pay attention to whether he wants to meet your friends and family, and don’t take it as an excuse that he just wants to spend time with you. It might feel good, but it’s not a sign of a relationship with a future.

2. He doesn’t talk about the future

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When you were first together, did your man ever talk about the future? What would you do together and how much fun would you have? Isn’t it so much now? When you talk about the future, does he refuse to commit? Worse still, when he talks about the future, doesn’t he mention you?

A guy who doesn’t talk about the future is a guy who doesn’t want to commit, like explored by Emery, LF, and Le, B. He’s a guy hedging his bets, enjoying the time he has with you now but with one foot out the door.

Don’t take this as him taking it one day at a time, as he might say. He probably doesn’t completely agree, but he wants to have fun in the meantime.

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3. He tells you he wants to take it slow

Just like a guy who doesn’t want to talk about the future, a guy who says he wants to take things slowly is someone who isn’t entirely on board.

For a guy who wants a relationshiphe works hard to be there. He meets your family, is there when you need him, doesn’t disappear and makes excuses. Someone who says they want to take it slow is someone who doesn’t want to commit.

Remember when you were dating another man and at the end of a date your date told you he wanted to take it slow and never called you again? You see, it’s just an excuse.

So, don’t make excuses for why your man wants to speak slowly. If he’s not ready to jump in with both feet, he’s not ready at all.

4. He is emotionally unavailable

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When you try to talk about emotional things, does your man shut down? When you want to talk about your relationship or how you’re feeling, does he make excuses to withdraw from the conversation and refuse to re-engage if you ask?

For men, showing their emotions can be difficult, and for a man who doesn’t want to commit, putting in the effort to do so just isn’t worth it. After all, why spend time doing something difficult if you don’t have to?

And, while he cares enough about you to spend time with you and be intimate with you, he doesn’t care enough to engage emotionally, like suggested by the Relationship initiation manual. And that’s a huge wake-up call.

So, be honest with yourself. Does your man avoid conversations about your relationship or your feelings? If he does, he may very well have commitment phobia.

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5. You feel insecure in the relationship

Again, you are here reading this article. Chances are if you do this, you won’t feel secure in your relationship.

Most women know that when their man doesn’t want a committed relationship, they just hope things will change. They hope that if they try hard enough, love their man enough, and make their friends love and care for them, their man will fall in love with them.

What I can promise you is that none of these things will happen. If a man doesn’t want to commit, if you do everything you can to make him like you, you will only push him away.

Don’t ignore this warning sign. A healthy relationship is supposed to make someone feel safe and loved. If you don’t feel this way, it’s a huge sign that your man just doesn’t want to stay around forever.

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6. They are not great communicators

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In addition to not being emotionally available, men who are afraid of being in a relationship are men who are not great communicators.

These are guys who might disappear for a few days, text less than usual, or spend a lot of time away from you with their friends. The main thing is that they don’t tell you about it. They just do their own thing and leave you wondering what’s going on.

What does this do? This tells you that they are not interested in you because a man who loves a woman is a man who will communicate. THE Communication and Social Interaction Skills Manual demonstrates how he will have enough respect for her to tell her what he’s doing and when he won’t be available.

So, don’t make excuses for your man’s lack of communication. Don’t think he’s withdrawing so he can think about his feelings for you. Don’t tell yourself that it’s good for everyone to have complete independence in a relationship, and it’s a sign of good health. This is not the case!

7. He picks the fights

Guys who aren’t all in are guys who will be in a bad mood and pick fights that don’t need to be picked.

They will be impatient and condescending. They will gaslight you and make you feel like everything is your fault, like explained by a qualitative analysis in the Personal Relationship Journal. They will make you feel insecure and unsure of yourself.

And, for a lot of guys, the reason they do this is for you to break up with them.

One of the worst traits of men is that they don’t want to hurt a woman by breaking up with them. so they breadcrumb and treats her badly, hoping that their wife will break up with them. When I try to explain the disparity of this argument to men, they just don’t understand. So they do it again and again.

Is your man looking for fights? Do you feel like he’s not the person you fell for, but a grumpy new person you tiptoe around? If so, this could be a sign he is commitment phobicand I want to warn you not to make excuses for your man and his behavior.

Don’t think that if you love him enough things will change. If your man exhibits one or more of these signs, walk away. Walk away and find the love you deserve! You can do it!

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Mitzi Bockmann is a New York City-based certified life coach and mental health advocate who works exclusively with women to help them achieve everything they want to be. Mitzi’s bylines have appeared in MSN, Prevention, Huffington Post and Psych Central, among others.