DEAR ANNIE: We recently moved into a new house, and in just three months we had a parade of lawyers knocking on our door or ringing our doorbell. After the sixth one, I became so frustrated that I started using the Ring app on my phone to answer it remotely because I just didn’t want to deal with it anymore.

However, if I ignore them, they often come back later! It’s as if they don’t understand – or don’t care – that they’re not welcome.

To try to resolve the problem, we even purchased several “No Trespassing” and “No Solicitation” signs, which were clearly visible from the street. And yet, despite these signs, they still have the nerve to walk straight onto our property and ring the doorbell! I don’t understand. What is wrong with these people? Can’t they respect our privacy and follow the obvious signs?

It becomes more than just a nuisance; It’s really destabilizing. There’s something about strangers knocking on your door uninvited that makes you feel unsafe in your own home. These lawyers are even worse than junk mail or spammers because, unlike a junk message in my inbox, they physically intrude into my personal space. I don’t think these people realize how intrusive and inappropriate their actions are.

Please help spread the message that most of us don’t want strangers showing up at our door uninvited. It’s not only annoying but also disturbing to have to constantly deal with this. – Fed up with lawyers

DEAR SICK OF LAWYERS: If you have already put up signs and asked lawyers to stop, then at this point they are entering your property. The next time you’re faced with this problem, consider asking your neighbors what they’re doing. You might even get together and see if the police can enforce a no-solicitation policy in your neighborhood.

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DEAR ANNIE: I am writing in response to the letter regarding the friend who was snubbed and not invited to join the group. True friendship is built on respect, kindness and mutual support, not dismissive or hurtful behavior. The writer seems like a thoughtful and sensitive person, someone who values ​​meaningful relationships and deserves enriching, reciprocal friendships.

In situations like this, it’s best to let go of the hurt by forgiving the person – not necessarily for their sake, but for your own peace of mind. Holding on to resentment only makes the hurt worse. Forgive them, wish them well, and move on, knowing that you are making room in your life for the people who truly appreciate you. Sometimes moving past certain relationships is a natural part of life and can lead to deeper, more fulfilling connections.

As painful as it can be, it’s important to recognize when it’s time to break off a so-called friendship that no longer serves you. Pray for the snobbers, forgive them, and focus your energy on the friendships that uplift and nourish your spirit. — Forgiveness is a gift

DEAR FORGIVENESS: I am printing your thoughtful letter because it highlights the importance of forgiveness, not only for the sake of the person who wronged you, but for your own mental and emotional well-being. Thank you for sharing your insights on one of my favorite topics: the power of forgiveness.

With everything bombarding you outside your home, you absolutely have the right to protect the peace and sanctity inside your home.

Send your questions to Annie Lane at [email protected].