• After a man’s mother remarried when he was a child, he says she ‘ignored’ him and ‘focused all her attention’ on his new family
• Now that the man is getting married, his mother behaves as if they have always had a close relationship and “expects to be front and center” at his wedding.
• Reddit users are wondering if the groom is wrong for not allowing his mother to come to his wedding.

A groom gives his mother a taste of her own medicine.

In an article on Redditis popular “Am I the A——?” forum, a groom whose mother made him feel “invisible” his whole life is now excluding her from her wedding guest list. He explained on the platform that until he got engaged, his mother wanted nothing to do with him.

After his parents divorced when he was 8, the groom’s mother quickly remarried a man with two children from a previous relationship. His new family apparently replaced his old one, because she “focused all her attention” on them, he said.

“Since then, it’s like I’m no longer a priority in his life,” the groom, 26, wrote of his mother. “I’m not exaggerating when I say she treated them way better than I did. They went on trips, she went to all their sporting events and they got everything they wanted.”

He continued: “I felt like I was invisible. She didn’t ask me about my school, didn’t care about my friends, or even my mental health. I started to feel feeling like I wasn’t even his child anymore.”

When he moved away after turning 18, the groom hoped that his mother would “care” about him enough to stay in touch with him, but she did not. Every time he made the effort to reach out, she would say she was “busy” or not respond at all. So, eventually, he stopped contacting her.

But things changed when the groom announced his engagement. “Out of nowhere,” she began excitedly texting her son, as if they were “very close,” wanting to know all the details of the wedding.

“Even saying things like, ‘I can’t wait to see you start this new chapter,'” the groom recalled. “Like…seriously?” I haven’t heard from her in years, and now she expects to be the center of my wedding?

The groom directly told his mother that he was uncomfortable with her attending his wedding after her treatment of him over the years. He said he would be willing to rebuild their relationship after he married, but not before. This caused his mother to burst into tears and accuse him of “holding a grudge.” She insisted that as a mother, “she deserves to be there.”

“I don’t know how I’m supposed to forget the fact that she ignored me my entire childhood,” the groom wrote, pointing out how unfair it was to let her show up to the wedding when she didn’t. is never presented for him.

He asked on the forum: “AITA for not letting my mom come to my wedding after everything that happened?

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While the groom’s family is divided, with some saying he needs to “let it go” for a day to “keep the peace”, Reddit users in the comments section are united that his mother doesn’t deserve a second chance only after marriage. .

“Child neglect is not something that is forgiven and forgotten for most people, especially when you come to terms with no longer having a relationship with your parents,” one person wrote in part . “She has no right to come home and ruin what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life.”

“Who needs to apologize, definitely not OP (original poster),” another Redditor commented. “Her birth giver has been absent for two-thirds of her life and suddenly she wants to step in and celebrate.”