Do you sometimes feel like no relationship will ever work? At least, not in the way you would like: easy, simple, loving, adventurous, fun?

This has happened to me more often than I care to admit. I felt helpless. Powerless. I tried to TO DO more and be more. It was painful and the pattern kept repeating itself.

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If you can master these skills, you will attract a lot of attention from men:

1. Focus on yourself first

First of all, if you are not in a serious relationship with this person, start dating other people. If you’re already committed, focus on other areas of your life (apart from them).

Focus on your personal growth. Pick up a new hobby. Start going out more with your friends. 2015 research states that focusing on yourself can make you happier overall.

A person must feel the coldness of your absence before they can appreciate the warmth of your presence. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. However, as you like to phrase it, when you start focusing on yourself and the things that make you happy, the person you love often starts to notice you and gravitate towards you.

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2. Don’t cater to his every whim

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To slow down if they start showing more interest in you. Don’t cater to their every whim.

Think about that nice guy, the one who is so nice and says yes to everything. It’s easy to lose respect for someone who doesn’t stand up for your interests and desires.

Learning to stand up for yourself is not only good for your relationships, but also has its own benefits for you. A study from Stanford University shows that women who can monitor themselves and adjust their assertiveness in different situations may be more successful in getting promotions.

So instead, fill your schedule with things you’ve always wanted to do for yourself. Don’t rearrange your schedule or cancel things to be with them.

If they want to see you, they’ll have to wait a week (or whenever it works for what you already have planned). You are worth the wait.

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3. Stop giving him all your time and attention

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If you notice that they have their own lives and don’t take the time to include you in them, you should do the same. Why waste time with someone who won’t give you theirs? Cut your losses if they don’t show interest.

Don’t you dare call, text, or email them. Stick your hands behind your back if you have to (just kidding!) Every time you give in and get no response, a little piece of your self-esteem goes away. You seem more desperate and feel out of control.

There is no worse attraction killer than the stench of a needy and desperate person. Being needy in a relationship, a 2017 research sayscan lead to jealousy issues and lower relationship satisfaction.

Don’t take personal offense if they don’t come – ultimately, they’re just not right for you. At least, not at the moment.

Maybe they’ll come back in the future, maybe not. Continue to date other people. It probably wasn’t your first love. It may not be your last.

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Rhonda Cort is the founder of The High-Value Woman and CEO of Magnetic Woman International, a company specializing in helping women entrepreneurs enjoy a fulfilling love life.