Dear Annie: Last week, my good friend “Jess” called me at 6 a.m. asking if I could drive her to an appointment that morning, even though I had to be at work at 8 a.m. This kind of last minute favor becomes a habit. . I was tempted to say no, but she’ll always make me feel guilty with something like, “You’re the only one I can count on!”

I really value our friendship, but I feel exhausted by his constant needs. How can I let him know that I need firmer boundaries without making him feel like I’m abandoning him? – Feeling exhausted

Dear feeling of exhaustion: You’re going to have to do what you’ve been avoiding: say no.

Tell her that you want to be there for her, but you just don’t have the time or energy to drop everything at a moment’s notice. It may feel awkward at first, but a true friend will respect your boundaries.

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