A woman said she ex-boyfriend contacted her and asked her not to come to a mutual friend’s house house-warming party. The reason? His new fiancée “will feel uncomfortable.”

In a recent article on Reddit “Am I the A——?“, the 26-year-old woman opened up about the situation, first explaining to Internet users that she and her 27-year-old boyfriend had been separated for two years.

She described the bursting as “pretty friendly”, but admitted that she felt there was no real reason to remain friends with him anymore, and cut him off completely to avoid any future “problems”.

However, because of the close-knit community, she remained cordial and engaged in “small talk” with her parents during occasional run-ins. She also remained friendly with her friends, sharing that she even meets up with her ex “once or twice every couple of months.”

At present, he now has a fiancée — something she didn’t think would be a problem — and even said, “I’m happy for them.” So far, no friction.

But things changed when their mutual friend, Peter, invited them both to a housewarming party.

“One of his closest friends, Peter, just bought a house. I’m friends with his girlfriend,” the woman explained on Reddit. “And we’re both invited to the housewarming party. I didn’t think anything of it, though, my ex texted me yesterday, after about a year? Although, very politely, maybe I could avoid the housewarming party, because he was bringing his (fiancée), and she would feel uncomfortable.

Disconcerted by the text, she then explained that she was “weird by his comments” and decided to call him to set things straight. That’s when he makes a rather bold accusation.

“He said his (fiancée) felt uncomfortable about me being close to him,” she recalled. “And the fact that they both feel like I sometimes intrude on their social gatherings, just to prove to her friends that I’m better than her.”

Angered by his words, she fought back and reminded him that she “stopped going out with his friends” as soon as they broke up “so as not to make things harder for him.” Which led her to ask herself the question: “How was it my fault?” »

After her ex-boyfriend called out how none of his friends respected his new girlfriend, with some calling her “stupid,” the woman retaliated by calling him “spineless,” saying their relationship issues didn’t matter. were not his problem.

She also made one thing very clear to him: She would indeed attend this housewarming party, no matter how he and the uncertain new fiancée might feel.

“I forcefully told my ex that Peter and his girlfriend were my friends and that I would go to their housewarming party, and that his relationship problems are not my problem,” the woman explained on Reddit.

She added: “I blocked him now, and his (fiancée) sent a long text explaining that she was sorry, but now I was apparently vindictive, and what did it matter if I didn’t go to a hanging of rack? She asked me not to make any drama and to respect her. I didn’t respond and blocked her.

“My friends are mad at my ex and I haven’t told my friend or Peter yet. I think maybe I could have handled things differently. AITAH? the woman concluded.

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The majority of Reddit commenters sided with the woman, saying the ex-boyfriend’s insecurities with his new fiancée aren’t her problem.

“You were invited to the party and your ex (fiancée)’s discomfort is not your responsibility,” one user said. “As long as you’re respectful and don’t cause drama, you have every right to be there.”

“You’re just trying to vibe with your friends, not your ex. His (fiancee’s) insecurities are not your responsibility,” another Redditor said, echoing some of the same points as previous commenters. “You were respectful, you took a step back, and it’s not your fault their circles overlap.” Blocking them was smart – drama is not your problem. Go to that party, it’s about your friends, not them.

Many other commenters insisted the woman should go to the housewarming party. One of the points that many commenters agreed on is that the ex was overstepping his boundaries.

“Honestly your ex and his (fiancée) are overstepping the boundaries trying to control your actions,” another commenter responded. “It’s a housewarming party, not their personal territory and you don’t have to avoid things just to make them comfortable.”

Others chimed in with simple advice directed at the ex-boyfriend, suggesting that the ex and his new fiancée should take their own advice and not go to the party.

“If your ex and your (fiancée) have a problem, they shouldn’t go there. As long as you were invited, you have every right to leave,” one user said. “Your presence has nothing to do with them. And I doubt you knew they were there. They need to get over themselves.