Dear Eric: One of my daughters-in-law has always been easy to offend. It’s a family affair, with people being rejected for years. I tried to be loving and caring, but I always failed.

Eighteen months ago she had a medical emergency and our son asked us to come. While they were home, my daughter-in-law started talking about their finances and asking my opinion on what they should do. I suggested that maybe they should start planning for the future instead of living in the moment. Everything seemed fine for a while. Then came the anger, the pain and everything that goes with it.

I later realized that she wanted me to offer to help them financially. We are retired and we make almost a third of what they make.

She stopped talking to us and we left. She cut off all contact with us right after sending me a really hateful email.

She also told one of our adult grandchildren that I had said untrue things about her.

Now our son is making proposals on behalf of his wife to simply forgive and forget. I actually appreciated not having to guard every word I say and all the drama that goes with it. I don’t think I can trust him any more than I did before. I just don’t know if I can forgive and forget. I hate it, but it’s true. Any advice?

– No intentional infringement