Note: This article contains mentions of sexual assault.

Disagreements over politics can be very tense, especially when it involves family. Now that the former president Donald Trump we will soon be back in power, we request members of the BuzzFeed Community who have very different perspectives than their family to share how the news is affecting their relationships, and their responses were heartbreaking. Here’s what they had to say:

1.“I live with my sister who watches Fox News all night. I had to lie and tell her I voted for Trump because she was so angry and started yelling really loud. I’ll just try to make sure politics don’t come up at Thanksgiving.”

2.“I’m doing great. I realized with this election that people can have a different opinion than me, and that we can still coexist harmoniously. Do I wish it were different? Of course. Is- what I keep working on it so I can see things right? Yes. Do I let this keep me up at night and stress me out? No. » which will probably never pass the desks of Congress.

—gassygoose

3.“I’m a gay father and I have four adopted children, and if someone tries to take that away from me, the gloves are off. At this point, I just tell them, ‘I forgive you,’ and if they choose to follow through, I just tell them, “I forgive you,” and if they choose to follow through, I give them the deal I know my worth, and if my family doesn’t see it. , I choose to make this as uncomfortable as possible for my family at this time. They say to be educated, but absolutely not to be educated? make you realize how fragile you are, baby.

“I’m not here to fight, but I won’t back down. I’m willing to hurt your feelings and make you uncomfortable. If silence feels awkward, OKAY. You don’t get the satisfaction of defend your vote. You are aligning yourself with the Nazis and the KKK, and you will know it because I am ready to let you know it, period.

—Shawn, 31 years old

4.“I haven’t stopped talking to my parents after the election, but I’m thinking about it. I’m a woman living in Texas, and in my 20s I was raped and needed medical attention. My mother was the first person I spoke to. She called and she knew everything I had been through. She thinks I’m too concerned about Trump winning the election because it’s “unlikely.” that I was raped and needed medical attention again and that it “has not been proven” that he actually sexually assaulted or raped anyone.”

5.“It’s horrible. I am a married lesbian, I have a son who is biologically my wife’s son and frozen embryos. I live in New York and my family lives in Florida and I am a Trump supporter. I am now in contact with a lawyer to secure my rights to my son and figure out how to handle our embryos My family doesn’t understand and thinks I’m “paranoid” because Trump is “pro-IVF and not religious, so he won’t overturn them. homosexuals’ marriage.’ They’re delusional. We haven’t talked about it much because I don’t want it to harm our relationship.”

—Danielle, 38 years old

6.“We can’t really talk about politics. I can’t tell them who I voted for even though I know who they voted for, because they’re proud of it. I can’t even really talk about it with friends. It’s really I’m isolating myself and having to turn to a lot of online communities to connect with people.”

—Okay, 34 years old

7.“My parents voted Trump and I voted blue. I cried a lot when I found out the results, and my parents didn’t understand why. In their own words, ‘Why are you sad that the best president is back?’ we should party!” I’m trans, and they both know it.”

8.“I wonder how much my family really cares when their gun rights and wallets are more important than my human rights. I feel like I’ve lost my family to of a cult willing to justify even the most reprehensible thoughts and actions Overnight, I lost all respect for so many people in my life When my own mother made fun of my tears and my. fears over this particular election outcome, I knew our relationship would never be the same again People I thought I knew suddenly became emboldened to openly express certain despicable thoughts and beliefs. that I have seen and heard from family members and close friends since the election.

“Now I set boundaries to protect myself and my children. No more biting my tongue and playing nice to avoid conflict. No more appeasing or showing respect to people just because they belong from “family” or my “elders”. No more news regarding my young children, and those who cannot follow this rule may sacrifice their relationships with them. My goal now is to protect my children and my peace from the rhetoric. and the dangerous beliefs that have become much more prevalent, especially since the election. If I have to have limited or no contact with people to do so, well, so be it.

—Nicole, 35 years old

9.“I can’t respect my dad anymore after his vote proved he doesn’t respect women. It’s pretty disgusting to think, ‘That’s my dad, and that’s how little he thinks of me .'”

-Anonymous

10.“It’s tearing my family apart, at least from my perspective. One kid voted for Trump and another for Kamala. One doesn’t want to be together for the holidays and I’m the mom caught in the middle. I love it.”

11.“Everyone in my family voted red, but my dad was the worst. I voted blue and this is my first election. My brother isn’t old enough to vote but he would have voted blue if he On Thursday, my father asked me who I voted for. I asked why it mattered, and he told me he knew what it meant and that I voted for her. bad person. He told me it was lucky that Trump won and I still had four years left I change my values. woman, disabled, chronically ill and closeted lesbian, I voted for MY rights. .

“He keeps talking about the election and how grateful he is that the majority of this country has values ​​and hasn’t been influenced by ‘mentally ill people who think men can be women and women can kill their babies, and that marriage is anything but one woman and one man. The holidays are going to be great. I can’t wait to go to college, I leave at nine. »

—Kat, 18 years old

12.“I’m not going to Thanksgiving this year and I’m not sure about Christmas. My whole family voted for Trump, and as a queer drag artist, it’s hard to be around them right now. I take time to be with my friends and really decide what role I want my family to play in my life going forward. Which probably means less access to my life.

—Jacob, 33

13.“I’m a gay man, so I cut off my parents, my sister and my extended family because they support a man who doesn’t believe in equality for LGBTQ people. They don’t understand that this election was about preserving dignity humane for those who are constantly demoralized by the right I’m so glad I moved across the country and have a better community to spend the holidays with. I still love my family. feel so uncomfortable with them. Except my grandmother, she is an ally who I voted for Kamala.

14.“My daughter and son-in-law don’t want me. I voted for Trump the first time, but I didn’t this time. I told her I would never vote again if it meant keeping her. My my heart is broken by this damn election I will never express my opinions or beliefs again It’s not worth having hateful names thrown at me, I could never treat her that way no matter what. she did.

—oldsealion494

15.“I live with my grandparents. We’re in a red state. I have to move; I’m disabled. They’re hysterical about it. I said, ‘Sorry, but you don’t love me, and for m ‘ensure my rights, I have to go there. They don’t see any connection between their votes and that.

—miran32

16.“I’m not from the United States, but my father votes for far-right neo-Nazis who want women to be broodmares, mummies and servants, so there you go: I’ve had very little contact with him. J ‘ve already refused to be his maid after he retired (I came home after school in the afternoon, and he was just sitting there, waiting for me to cook and serve him), and I refuse to entertain his nonsense sexist, titled now, I meet him in cafes or restaurants, but never at home, and I limit meetings to 30-60 minutes.

17.And finally, “My ex-husband cut off her father because of this. He’s a stepfather to my daughter even though we’re not together, but he’s really the only father my daughter has ever had. He is afraid for me and for her He said he couldn’t understand why his father would vote for policies that actively put his granddaughter in danger so he couldn’t continue the relationship. and I am grateful that he is that kind of man and that my daughter will never have to guess his love and support.”

—Kaylamoyer

Can you relate to any of these stories? Or does your family have a different way of handling political differences? Let us know what you think in the comments.